I hope you are well! It’s been a full February already, with some exciting news coming in the next few weeks, so I’m keeping things short and sweet this week. Let’s get right into it…
Changing our habits, behaviors, and mindsets isn’t easy. Choosing to approach life with positivity, gratitude, presence, compassion, or whatever quality you’re trying to cultivate might not feel natural. It might not be your automatic or spontaneous reaction to the situation.
And that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try. It doesn’t mean that that quality is out of reach for you. It doesn’t mean that you’re incapable or not wired to act in that way.
It just means that, for now, it needs to be something that you mindfully choose. Know that each time you choose that path of openness, love, and growth, you strengthen your ability to find and choose it again.
One of my favorite tools to help cement these habits and mindsets is a “personal FAQ.” It’s a reference list of statements that remind you of who you want to be, how you want to act, and how you want to proceed.
Your personal FAQ might include statements like:
- ”I express gratitude first thing in the morning.”
- ”I give people the benefit of the doubt.”
- ”I make my own decision before I start talking to my brother about the choice.”
These statements are there to keep you on track, which is especially important if you’ve found yourself getting dragged back into old habits and patterns again and again.
How to make your personal FAQ
I find that they’re best built over time. Every time you have an “ah-ha!” moment, or resolve a difficult situation, ask yourself if there is a lesson from it that you want to put in your FAQ.
How to use your personal FAQ
I would suggest reading (and for bonus points – writing!) your personal FAQ statements each morning. It will set you up for the day and prime you to live those positive qualities.
We could get angry or frustrated at ourselves for letting healthy habits drop or not responding to difficult situations in the way that we want to. Or, we could create simple systems and structures to help us remember how we want to be and act.
This is the work that I do with my clients. A client just wrote me a note to say that her periods have regulated, and that she attributes it to the simple dietary changes and revamping of her morning routine that we worked on together. Strict plans and cookie-cutter templates don’t work. To achieve real change and results, you need a plan that takes in your unique history, constitution, and life situation into account. If that sounds like something you’re interested in, consider an Ayurvedic consultation with me. We always start with a free 30-minute conversation to talk about what’s going on and how we could work together. Learn more here.
Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day,