I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving. This week, I had the interesting experience of not wanting to write this weekly note to you. It wasn’t that I had writer’s block or didn’t want the responsibility of writing. Rather, I read a beautiful article, and realized that the author’s message was one that I wanted to amplify rather than my own.
Of course…the author doesn’t really need much help with amplification. The article I’m talking about is Megan Markle’s New York Times op-ed that was published on Wednesday. You’ve probably seen the sound bites – she shares about her recent miscarriage in the article. But it’s about so much more than that.
Megan’s article is ultimately about collective grief and collective healing. It’s about recognizing our global responsibility to care for each other.
Megan shares a story of seeing a woman crying on a street corner in New York City. The taxi driver waves it off, saying it happens all the time and someone will take care of her.
That woman was me many times over the course of 4 years living in New York. On the one hand, it was something I loved about New York. All of life was lived in public – you would regularly see joy, sorrow, fear, compassion, and every other human emotion, and you were allowed to express it in just the same way. On the other hand, no one did ever tap me on the shoulder when I was crying in Union Square Park or ask if I needed anything. And I never reached out when I saw someone else crying either. Perhaps it was that we all saw so much human emotion that we were numb to it. Or, like the taxi driver, we told ourselves that someone else would take care of it and that we weren’t needed.
I will fully admit that I was having a difficult time with gratitude on Thanksgiving morning. I felt the sorrow of a weird COVID holiday, and I felt lost about what to do with myself on a day that was “supposed to” be celebratory.
I have a daily practice of sending love and well wishes to family, friends, clients, acquaintances, and the world. In doing that practice on Thanksgiving, I realized how all of these people were waking up to a difficult holiday. Some of them were unable to be with family because of distance. Others were mourning those that they’ve lost in this past year. Still others are in the midst of taxing treatments for cancer or are wading the murky waters of trying to get pregnant.
In doing this practice, I was reminded of something that connects and unifies all of us humans: we do all feel hurt, and we do all seek peace.
And that’s what I deeply appreciated about Megan’s article. She is calling on us to actually reach out. Rather than assuming that people will tell us if something’s not right, or that someone else will be the support they need, we can actually be proactive in our care. And we can approach this care not as a savior, but rather as a fellow human that also has experienced hurt and sometimes needs help and support too.
So with that introduction, I highly recommend reading Megan Markle’s piece, and I invite you to think of someone in your world that you can reach out to today to check in on.
Thank you for being here, for reading, and for thinking deeply with me about these important issues.
Some holiday news to share – if you’ve felt a little overwhelmed by all that 2020 has brought, you’re not alone. To say it’s been a tough year is an understatement. We’ve managed to navigate a completely new way of working, living, and socializing. There’s been momentous social change and a divisive political battle. We’ve all known someone deeply affected by COVID, whether it’s financially or physically.
There’s a chance that all of this external turmoil has created some internal difficulties as well. Maybe you’re having a hard time sleeping, you’ve realized you need to change your living situation, or you just haven’t felt good in your body.
It’s time to get unstuck. On December 12th, for the first time ever, I’m offering exclusive virtual mini-coaching sessions. These 30-minute Zoom meetings are your chance to get an expert ear (and mind) to help you dive deep and make a plan.
In these sessions, I’ll bring together lessons from Ayurveda, modern psychology, yoga, and the best tools of behavioral change to understand the root cause of your issue and explore what you can do to feel confident, competent, and vibrant again.
Our sessions include a questionnaire, meeting recording, and written recap of our conversation. There are only a few sessions available so I can give my best energy and attention to each client. I’m offering these sessions at a discounted price of $42.
You could use your mini-session to:
- figure out why your digestion has been so out of whack and how to get relief
- decide where to spend the holidays (and how to deal with your family once you get there)
- understand why getting a consistent exercise routine has been so hard, and how to find one that you can stick with
- take action on anything else in your life that is causing stress and anxiety
Whatever you could use some support on, I’m here to help you make a plan and move forward.
If you’re interested in getting one of these sessions,you can sign up here.
Thanks for reading, and have a wonderful day,